Relevance:
Sociology:
- Patriarchy, entitlements and sexual division of labour
- Gender, Inequalities
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Dr Lina Badshah, a sociologist, says, “The practice of wearing mangalsutra or other customary signs of saubhagya, like bindi or sethi, is vanishing.” Badshah said few women of today’s generation associate these elements with their status as married women.
“Today, these ornaments seem ‘insignificant’ and wearing them seems ‘unnecessary’ to the new woman,” Badshah said. Dr Prashant Bhimani, a psychologist, said, “Today, when androgynous fashion trends have emerged, even the male segment has cast aside its demand that wives sport such accessories.”
Dr Vinod Goyal, a psychotherapist, said, “In today’s cosmopolitan workplaces, women sporting icons of tradition are viewed negatively. To avoid such labelling, many have stopped using sutras, sethis, and bindis.” Dr Hansal Bhachech, a psychiatrist, said, “The practice of wearing the mangalsutra is on the wane because not only women but men, too, have stopped reading it as a symbol of marriage. That is why women are no more forced to wear their marital status around their necks.”
Woman doesn’t want to wear bangles, Mangalsutra and Sindoor etc after marriage because they have seen the partial behaviour in workplace, colleges, schools, other institutions within the ambit of society.
Partiality in a way that married woman suddenly open to any kind of vulgar jokes that can be cracked by the colleagues, mostly discussion will be for how in-laws treated her or how romantic is her husband? ,
Advise will be requested to handle household activity and when she is going to deliver a child? Obvious question for society, relatives & friends but just want it to make clear not for the newly married girl!
She was not at all expecting that obvious question.
At workplace employer will look at her future planning such as bearing child, settling with husband, working just for time pass or working with a distracted mind etc as if that is prevailing in current situation & she is unable to give good performance on workplace which is totally based on her skill and talent .Employer will develop a partial opinion towards married girl, its self-generating skill for employer.
Conclusion:
No one to be blamed for this, we live in a patriarchy society and it will take time to evolve. Till then girl /woman have to acquire patience, power so that they can execute the change bit-by-bit. Power by getting high position in workplace, Power by educating people, Power by eradicating social issues and Power by self-motivation to bring the change at low level.
When you have power, people will listen, society will act, traditions and customs will be respected and most importantly Girl’s faith towards marriage will not be subjected to her Mangalsutra , bangles or Sindoor etc but it will be subjected to the upliftment of woman in the society to give her freedom of expression to live not to impress anybody but to express herself.
Marriage is solemnization of two souls nothing else and if there is difference of solemnizing of souls then that can’t be marriage! Let the girl/woman decides to wear bangles, Mangalsutra or Sindoor as mark of being married or as a mark of her custom & traditions.
Let her decide!!!